Passing along a fascinating podcast:
Susan Shapiro Barash on her book “Why Women Lie.”
Speaking as someone who blogs under an assumed name in order to feel she can tell the truth about her life, I found this revealing, to say the least. I’ll admit it, I’m a champion liar. Until I’m not. And yes, like many of the women talked about in the interview, I feel like I’ve been pushed into situations where I have to lie to protect myself. And, like many of the women in the interview, I’ve arranged my life to accommodate my need to lie about things (how else can you explain over a decade in hospitality?)
For me, the biggest trap is lying about needing help. And I get fucked up about it. If my mind had its way, the list of things I would rather do before admitting that I needed help would include lying, stealing, cheating, running away and permanently severing personal relationships. (Please note, murder’s not on the list mostly because of my inherent laziness, not because I actually have enough moral fiber to draw the line there.)
This is another stage that feminism has to go through. We have to admit our faults, and we have to deal with them. Honestly, though, my initial reaction on hearing this interview was, “You mean it’s not just me?” Give it a listen.
